Advice on how to attract the
people and things you want in life
Ask
The Coach
by Sharon Hooper
Dear Readers,
Last month I responded to a
reader, “itching for a change”, who was in a rut with life
and business. I addressed a possible plan to focus on the
“changing friends” issue and stated that I would talk about the
“work” concern in this month’s column. Additionally, I suggested a
writing exercise that would help with attracting who, what and how
you attract people and situations in our life. If you did your
fieldwork, you are now ready for the installment of “how” you will
attract who and what you want in life.
To read last
month's column, click here.
Inertia, disinterest or
apathy at work can stem from many complicated factors, since this is
the main way that most people express themselves. If you have lost
your enthusiasm, some possible reasons might be: you’ve been in this
particular job for a long time and feel you have nothing new and
exciting to offer; management (and the rules) have changed;
communication with your co-workers or executive team is not clear or
focused; your workload is overwhelming and you have lost
focus; or (my favorite one), you have simply grown to a new personal
growth level and just don’t “fit in” any more with the company
itself or the people you work with.
It’s important for you to
recognize exactly which of the above situations (or another one)
might apply to you, because when you begin looking for solutions,
there will be different approaches depending on your answers. And
it’s amazing that if we listen to our intuition, we know exactly why
we lose our gusto for life or work… but changing takes a lot of
energy and commitment so we tend to “put up with” just a little
longer! (By the way, please seek counseling if life or work is
feeling really heavy. Coaching is great and can move mountains, but
it is not a substitute for serious guidance issues.)
Now, get your paper and pens
out – time for another drill! Make three columns on a big piece of
paper: Work situation What I love/like What I don’t
love/like
For each work situation,
write what you like most about it and then what you don’t like about
it. This will help you get focused on specific areas of your
professional life instead of trying to bump up against the entire
“what to do with my life right now” question.
Hopefully, some big “aha’s”
will jump out at you, and you will discover exactly what is driving
you to feel the way you do about work. Some questions that you
might want to explore are:
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Which parts of my job do I want to keep and which aspects might
someone else be able to take care of?
-
Did
I start a business because I loved what I was doing and then got
lost in the drudgery of trying to make it happen?
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What is my main talent and/or passion, and how is it being used?
-
Do
I have peers that are enthusiastic and supportive of me and the
company? If not, what can I do to change the environment?
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Am
I staying in a place/job because I’m afraid of the risks involved
in leaving?
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Is
it time to start my own business? If so, who else might be
interested in listening to my ideas and/or helping me move further
with my interests?
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What is my next challenge? If I’m bored and itching for something
different, what do I look for, where do I go?
I wish that I had the
definitive answers for all of these questions. Through the years
I’ve discovered that I have many more questions than I do answers!
I do know that change can be scary, and even thinking about
it can give us chills.
At this point in May’s
column, I realize that the topic of change is huge and can’t be
addressed easily in one writing, so I’m going to delay talking about
the “how to” of things for yet another month. I want to give you my
full attention regarding the subject of making transitions. Until
June then, please get ready to take April and May’s writing
exercises to a new level as you begin to uncover new ideas and learn
how to transform your life – yet again! E.mail me if you get stuck
this month!
Sharon Hooper, PCC, is a Life and Holistic
Business Coach who has a passionate desire to assist others in
reaching their highest aspirations. As a motivational speaker,
women’s leader and team facilitator, she conducts workshops in the
United States and Europe. Mary Magdalene workshops and retreats
focus on “The Hero’s Journey,” recognizing that Mary, as each of us,
are all heroes on our pilgrimage through life. To contact Sharon:
Sharon@CommitToYourSuccess.com,
www.CommitToYourSuccess.com and
www.SanctuaryPublications.com
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