A Perfect Partner in a Perfect Relationship?

Soul Mate

by Isaac E. Nwokogba

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Who is our soul mate and what makes one person our soul mate and not the other person? A soul mate is someone with whom we have formed a lasting, fulfilling, uplifting, and rewarding relationship; we are in tune with that person at a higher, spiritual level and he or she enriches our lives at both physical, as well as spiritual levels, as we enrich theirs. However, a soul mate is not exclusively for a romantic relationship, and we can and do have many soul mates.

Gregarious beings, humans have tremendous capacity to form different types of relationships including platonic, friendship, association, business, family, social, and romantic, to mention just a few. Humans do not exist in isolation. As we go through life, we have great impact on the people we encounter, and those who encounter us to varying degrees affect us. Almost every contact we have with another person can be thought of as some type of relationship, having some degree of impact on us as it does on the other person. These impacts may or may not be positive. However, the impact from our so-called soul mate is mostly positive, and to say the least, memorable.

In today's world of electrons, such contacts do not necessarily have to be physical in order for them to have some impact on both people. The mode of contact could be by phone, letter, email, video, audio, or reading the work of another. For example, someone recently contacted me by phone with a business proposition. Within the first two minutes or so of that phone discussion, I was overcame with a strong feeling that I found repelling and I knew then that this person is not someone I'd be interested in having any kind of business relationship with, although the person sounded nice on the phone.

It was not what this person said that I found repelling, but there is much more than what we say and do. Instead, it has to do with the energy that was being exchanged during that contact. Every contact involves some exchange of, for a lack of a better term, universal energy. We can either be attracted to this person or repelled by them due to this energy. Whether we are attracted to, or repelled by, the person is not an indicative of the type of person he or she is. It simply means that in a giving circumstance, we are better off not getting involved in that kind of relationship.

This may explain why we may sometimes have an unfavorable first impression of a person and later change our opinion of that person. Under a different set of circumstances, this person may be right for us to enter into some kind of relationship with. The point here is, whatever negative feelings we may perceive about a person, it is not a good basis for making a judgment of a person in all circumstances.

Conversely, there have been stories of people meeting through electronic means such as emails, where that contact led to a romantic and marriage relationships. For some people, their relationship may be so rewarding and fulfilling that they declare, "I have met my soul mate!" Others hope that their next romantic partner is their long-awaited soul mate, only to be disappointed if that relationship does not meet their expectations of what a relationship with a soul mate should be like. Very rarely do people expect to meet a soul mate in any other type of relationship, but we do.

I am almost certain that someone in the past coined the phrase, "soul mate" to describe some concept. Whatever the original intent or context, the phrase has been used to apply exclusively to romantic relationships. In almost every context, the use of the phrase implied living together "happily ever after till death do us part." Consequently, the concept of soul mate may have come to represent an illusive, fairy-tale ideal of a "perfect" partner in a "perfect" relationship to those who seek their soul mates.

The soul-mate concept is a simple one from a spiritual perspective, but has come to be grossly misunderstood, misused, and overused, leading possibly to disappointments and heart aches for those who find it illusive.

As with any other type of relationship, and especially those that are based on spiritual principles like the relationship between a person and his or her spirit guide, the relationship with a soul mate can span over many lifetimes, going back to centuries and even thousands of years. We maintain certain relationships with certain individuals and personalities here on Earth that carries over to the afterlife, and back to Earth again.
Once we have understood the concept, we can begin to think of soul mates in relation to any other type of relationship, whether or not we use the phrase, "soul mate." In the process, you will be better able to recognize a soul mate when you meet one, and avoid some erroneous ideas about soul mates.

As indicated earlier, some of our relationships last over many lifetimes. Most of them originated many lifetimes ago either on Earth or in the afterlife, but mostly on Earth, and we form new relationships in the present existence that will last many lifetimes in the future.

Through many lifetimes and afterlife experiences with certain individuals, we have worked at our relationships with them and have a much better understanding of them as they do of us. These can be any of type of relationship. For example, we may have gone into a business relationship with one individual many times in different lifetimes, be involved romantically with another, and be married to another. With each involvement with these individuals, we learn more about them, understand them, and can truly say that we know them at a different level, just as they know us.

When you meet one of these people you had known in the past in a romantic or marriage relationship, you will intuitively know how to get along. However, this does not mean that both of you are perfect. If you were, you probably would most likely not be involved in a marriage relationship this time, but in a different kind of relationship. These soul mates come into our lives for different reasons at different stages. Some will last a long time, others will last a very short time, just long enough to leave us with some memories that we will carry with us through our life and beyond.

Wouldn't you rather have pleasant memories of someone than a lasting relationship that leaves you with unpleasant memories? A relationship with a soul mate does not have to involve living together "happily ever after." If that is your only expectation of a soul mate, you may have met some of them without knowing it until it was too late to recognize them as soul mates.

How does this really work, you may ask. Let us use some illustrations. Suppose you have three friends who are moving to different countries in Africa. They will live in Africa for a relatively long time and you know that you will be moving to live in Africa later. Before they leave for Africa, you made agreements with each of your friends.

With one friend, you agreed to resume an intimate romantic relationship like the one you had before, but he or she has other missions in Africa and can only devote a short time to a romantic relationship with you. By short time, I mean a month to three months, but the pleasant memories will last you a lifetime.

With the second friend, you agreed for him or her to help you set up a type of business. This agreement is based on his or her past experience in that line of business, how successful your past businesses together were, how well you worked together, and how much you trust and understand each other from the past.

With the third friend, you both desire to live together, as in marriage, when you get to Africa. Marriage relationship with this person would be for your mutual benefit. You would lift up each other spiritually. It is one of the most important accomplishments for both of you in this lifetime.

You have agreed to meet these three individuals (soul mates) for different reasons when you arrive in Africa, and they will come into your life at different stages and at the appropriate times through the so-called coincidences, luck, and circumstances. However, the timing will have to be determined by some other source.

Upon arrival in Africa, you do not have vivid recall of these afterlife commitments, nor do your friends. In fact, you don't remember any, and you don't need to remember those commitments for them to be fulfilled. Cosmic forces do not forget and will work to bring about the fulfillment of those commitments if you let them. Remember, Africa is so small and so is our entire world in comparison to the cosmic forces at work. Let Africa represent our entire world. For more detailed examination of coincidences and luck, refer to my book, "Seeds of Luck: the ABCs of Creating Your Heart's Desires."

In Africa, your friends and you are born in different countries, into different races, speak different languages, and have different cultures. To some people, these differences can present difficulties that could prevent them from experiencing their desires. To others, these differences will present them with tremendous opportunity that will be beneficial to both of them in this lifetime and in the future.

These three scenarios are used in the finished book to illustrate possible outcomes and the experiences one can have with his soul mates.

For a more detailed examination of this topic and the conclusion of these discussions, be sure to read the book, Voices from Beyond: The God Force, the Other Side, and You.

This thought-provoking book may comfort you, intrigue you, or surprise you regardless of your religious or spiritual beliefs. At the very least, it will help to explain many of the extraordinary events and mysteries we all encounter in our lives.

In Voices from Beyond: The God Force, the Other Side, and You, the author takes you on a pilgrimage to the edge of what you know and what you believe, and gently guides you to unimagined places.

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