Tantric massage was
created from the belief that if you are sexually happy and relaxed
then your health will benefit
Tantric Massage - A Guide For
Beginners
by Lisa Mills
If I mention the words 'Tantric
massage' to you, does it immediately conjure up images of hippies
dancing around naked, barely touching each other whilst whale music
plays gently in the background? Like so many others out there this
was my perception of Tantric massage. Having had my eyes opened
recently I have decided to try to open your eyes too.
I guess the majority of us
have heard about Tantric sex and massage. Had anyone asked me what
it was exactly I would have giggled shyly and muttered something
about gentle touching, feathers, massage and no orgasm. How wrong I
was.
Tantric massage is basically
just a massage. However it was created from the belief that if you
are sexually happy and relaxed then your health will benefit. The
Hindus describe Tantra as achieving personal growth through
pleasurable existence. The massage itself does tend to cause
orgasms, but these are described as a bonus rather than the aim.
Although Tantric massage
does not involve actual penetrative sex, it does involve full on
touching of the organs. For this reason you will not find it offered
down your local health centre. You are far more likely to find it on
offer in the many massage parlours in London and other major cities.
If you want to have a go
with 'er or him indoors here is a pretty basic guide to Tantric
massage.
Firstly, from this point on,
your manhood is referred to as Lingam (wand of light - don't be
thinking light sabre it's not that big!) and the lady's bits are
called Yoni (sacred space or sacred temple). Let's face it those
words sound much nicer than the alternatives.
If you are visiting
somewhere for your massage you need to decide in advance whether you
will be getting naked or not. Proper Tantric masseuses prefer you to
be naked, they believe this helps the healing process all over your
body. If you are shy you can choose to keep some clothes on, I am
guessing you will want to cover your Lingam or your Yoni. If you are
at home with the missus or the husband, get your kit off and turn
the heating up.
Choose some gentle music
(whale music is optional). Now banish all thoughts of kneading your
lover all over until she or he begs for mercy. It's not that kind of
massage. Make your lover lie on his or her back, legs apart and a
cushion under the hips to raise up the Yoni/Lingam area and a
cushion under the head so they can look at their genitals. Explain
that although there will not be any penetrative sex this evening you
will take them to previously unknown heights of sexual satisfaction.
It may help to convince them if you do not print off this article
and place it next to them on the bed. Choose your lubricant wisely;
chocolate body sauce has no place here.
The massage itself involves
every part of the body, although I guess the Yoni/Lingam area will
receive more than its fair share of attention. The massaging of the
body is to help prepare the receiver for the attention you will be
paying their genitals.
Yoni Massage Pour a small
amount of oil on to the mound of the Yoni, just enough so it drips
down the outer lips. Massage each outer lip slowly between thumb and
forefinger, sliding up and down the entire length of the lip. Only
ask your lover if the pressure is too much or not enough. Try to
look into their eyes during the massage and ensure she can see what
you are doing. Do the same for the inner lips of the Yoni. Take your
time and watch your lover relax.
The jewel in the crown is
the clitoris. Four times more sensitive that your Lingam so take it
easy here. Begin by gently stroking it in a clockwise and
anti-clockwise direction and squeeze it gently between your thumb
and index finger. The missus will be well and truly fired up by now
but try not to allow an orgasm just yet, let the sensations build.
If it becomes too much, just back off a bit and encourage her to
breathe deeply. Now insert the middle finger of your right hand (I
can't remember why it has to be the right one but I shouldn't think
it would cause too much trouble if you need to use your left
instead.) and gently feel around inside continuing to massage
gently. With your palm facing upwards and your middle finger buried
in the Yoni, bend your finger back towards the palm and you should
feel a spongy area just under the pubic bone. This is known as the
G-spot ("that's where it is!" I hear you yell). Gently massage here,
in circles, back and forth, side to side. Your lover may feel the
need to pee but hopefully she should feel pleasure building slowly.
At this point you may wish to insert the finger between your middle
finger and your little finger. Whilst a few of your digits are
employed inside, you may as well use your thumb to continue circling
the clitoris. Another option is to leave your middle finger inside,
continue stimulating the clitoris with your thumb and insert your
little finger up her anus. I would suggest you perhaps test the
waters first as anal penetration when you are not expecting it would
definitely ruin the mood. Whilst all this is going on, your left
hand may feel a little underused. Use it instead to continue
stroking and massaging other parts of her body (her body parts not
yours!). Your lover will more than likely experience a very intense
orgasm and afterward will feel completely relaxed. She will
generally drift off to sleep and leave you in a state of arousal
with no prospect of a Lingam massage for you tonight!
Lingam Massage Traditionally
the giver, some men may find it difficult to lay back and think of
England whilst his lover goes to work on his wand of light. However,
I do suggest you give it a go bearing in mind the fantastic massage
you gave her Yoni last night.
Get your man to lay back on
the bed with a pillow under his head to enable him to see what you
are doing. Put a pillow under his hips and spread his legs with his
knees bent. His Lingam must be completely exposed. Begin as before
by gently massaging all over his body, avoiding this area for a
while. This allows him to become completely relaxed and prepared for
the touching of the Lingam. Pour a small amount of oil over his
shaft and testicles and begin gently massaging his testicles. Next
massage the area on the pubic bone above the Lingam. Massage the
area between his testicles and his anus (perineum). Moving on to the
Lingam, gently grasp the base with your right hand and move up the
shaft and then remove your hand, repeat with the left hand. Do this
for some time, then change to grasping the Lingam at the top, slide
down the shaft and remove your hand, replace with the left and
repeat this process. The head of the Lingam is very sensitive and
deserves special attention. Massage it in a circular motion. Don't
worry if the Lingam goes soft, it will shortly perk up again.
Likewise if your partner seems to be on the brink of orgasm, back
off and encourage deep breathing. Keep bringing him close to orgasm
and then back off. This is not a method of torture, it helps them to
control their ejaculation and therefore achieve longer and more
pleasurable orgasms.
Whilst continuing to massage
his Lingam, you can search for his sacred spot. This is located
between his testicles and his anus. It is a small indentation about
the size of a pea. If you massage here and gently increase the
pressure he may well feel uncomfortable at first. Applying pressure
here will help him gain control of his orgasms in future. If he is
nearing ejaculation you can apply pressure here and this will
increase the intensity of his orgasm.
The end of the massage is
signalled by either ejaculation or snoring. If he is snoring you
still have some practising to do. If he has ejaculated, you have
some clearing up to do.
I am still very much a
beginner however I was pleased to discover that Tantric massage is
not a mysterious sexual cult and is certainly not difficult to do.
Anyone with an hour to spare and a bottle of strawberry flavoured
body oil can do it.
http://www.24-7london.co.uk is an
adult guide to
London, About the author: Lisa Mills writes for 24-7 London as
well as other sites.
500
Lovemaking Tips & Secrets: Oprah Romance Expert Reveals How To
Drive Your Man Or Woman Wild With Passion
The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women And
What To Do About It
Why VERY INTELLIGENT Men Fail With
Women
Secrets Of Dating Younger Women
|
